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Baby update weeks 12,13 and 14!

Published January 8, 2012 by Yin!

The last few weeks have been crazy with the holidays and everything so let me try to catch everyone up. As I last posted I  started bleeding again on Dec 11th this continued until some time around Dec 29th or so. We spent many of those days at doctor’s appointments and getting ultrasounds. On our Dec 23rd ultrasound appointment it was discovered that I had a Subchorionic Hematoma (SCH). This basically means that I had a bit of blood  gathering  between the membranes of the placenta and my uterus. The blood usually does not interfere with the baby and most women continue to have a perfectly healthy pregnancy. In a few rare cases SCH can lead to preterm labor and placental abruption. My SCH was rather small so our doctor was not overly concerned and said that it would either bleed out or be reabsorbed by my body. Luckily (knock on wood) after bleeding for nearly 3 weeks the bleeding and spotting has stopped. We are hoping that it all bled out. Our next ultrasound appointment is Jan 12th, so we’ll see how things look then. Hoping for a very positive ultrasound :)

How far along: 14 weeks 2 days
Symptoms: Morning sickness still appears every now and then but nothing like before YAY! but it seems to be replaced by constant headaches and dizziness. Also I have a constant feeling of pressure and stretching in my pelvic area and very itchy breasts, probably due to them more than doubling in size. I started out at a 34d and have already out grown my new 34dd bras! 

Total Weight Gain: Not sure, I haven’t weighed myself in a few weeks
Stretchmarks: No new ones
Sleep: I haven’t been sleeping too well due to discomfort, weird dreams, constantly needing to pee and getting hungry in the middle of the night
Best Moment This Week: Yang is really excited that my bump is starting to show
Movement: Not yet. but I’m looking forward to it
Gender: We’ve had an unofficial guess by the ultrasound tech but won’t know officially until Feb.
Labor Signs: Too early for that!
Belly Button: Still in.
What I Miss: Having the occasional glass of wine
What I am Looking Forward to: Our next ultrasound, finding out the gender. Yang is looking forward to getting the all clear for us to book our baby moon ( Our doc said I can’t fly until the SCH has cleared, due to the changes in air pressure it may cause more bleeding)

Also we are very happy that we are now in the second trimester!!!! We’re 6 weeks away from being half way through this pregnancy!! I hope everyone’s New Year is off to a great start ~Yin!

14 weeks 1 day

Neglecting my wife- The Yang’s response

Published November 22, 2011 by The Yang

I am not neglected. I knew going in that being the most supportive wife I can be for Yin during her pregnancy would take priority over everything. It just shows how devoted of a wife Yin is, how she feels bad for not cooking my dinner and fixing my lunch. What?! If anything, I should be the one cooking and cleaning and doting on her every need! I confess, I do get bored sometimes when all she wants to do is sleep…but I’m never bored for long. I grew up an only child so I am more than capable of entertaining myself (which explains the sudden increase in my DVD collection).

Yesterday I got Yin some hand-picked flowers just to show my appreciation for her carrying our child. I know I’ll have my wife back soon…along with the best mother and baby in the world :)

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Neglecting my wife

Published November 21, 2011 by Yin!

Lately I feel as though I’ve been neglecting Yang. The last couple weeks I’ve spent more time hanging over the toilet than with her:(.  I feel really bad that I’m too tired and sick to be the wife that she’s used to having. Yang has been really great about it all, I’m really proud of her. She’s been cooking, preparing her own lunch and finding ways to entertain herself without my company. I’m hoping I feel better soon and the fatigue, mood swings and sickness only last through the end of first tri. I am beyond thankful to be pregnant but still look forward to having energy again. I hope this all gets easier as my pregnancy progresses. Well that’s all for now, I’m half way through the work day and hoping I can actually work my entire shift today. Hope you all are well~Yin!

A non-baby related update

Published November 19, 2011 by Yin!

Well wifeandwifeblog has turned into Babyland recently lol, but we still have other stuff going on, believe it or not. I’m really excited since I will be done with school in 3 weeks! It has taken me what feels like forever, but I’ll have my Bachelors degree. Yang won’t be too far behind me and will finish her MBA program in April. We can’t believe the school chapter of our lives is about to end (at least for now), we both decided to go back to school the summer of 2007. It has been 4 and a half long years but we are making it through, working full time and going to school is no joke. I’m planning to take a break and just enjoy not being in school at least until August, at that time I’m considering doing a human resources certificate program. The class meets one night a week for two semesters, I think I should be able to handle that and it may be nice to get back on an actual campus, rather than doing online classes. The other thing I’m debating is doing a Master’s program, I’ve found an online program at a regionally accredited school that takes 18 months to complete. I’ve read reviews and it seems like a great school and a good program for me… but I haven’t made a decision whether its something I want to pursue or not, at the earliest I would begin the program probably sometime in 2013 so I still have some time to decide.

Now on to the more exciting, fun stuff Yang and I have started planning a tropical getaway for February. We originally planned to take a Paris/London trip this coming May but that idea has been postponed and replaced with our upcoming trip to Curacao! We both are so excited, it will be nice to leave the stress of work and everyday city life behind to relax in lounge chairs on a private beach. We plan to go for around five days. Yang has found a couple of really nice hotels on the beach and we’ve looked around for flight info. Yang has already requested the time off work, I can’t request any 2012 vacation time until December 1st so hopefully sometime during the first week of Dec. my time off will be approved and we can book our trip. We haven’t had a big trip since our December 2009 cruise to Cozumel. I love tropical vacations so of course I can’t wait! I’ll leave with a few pics of our Cozumel trip, of course Curacao will involve a little lot less alcohol but still lots of great memories will be made. ~yin!

Houston we have a heartbeat!!!

Published November 10, 2011 by Yin!

Yesterday we had our ultrasound and we saw ABAK’s heart flickering on the screen. The little heart was beating at 111 beats per minute! It was an amazing moment that nearly brought me to tears. Never have I felt such happiness and relief. Our baby is still with us and steadily growing as it should, I’m in love! We thought I was six weeks along yesterday but the ultrasound dated me at 5 weeks, 5 days…hmmm not sure how that works considering we know when we had our iui, but whatever as long as everything is going fine we’re happy! I just had to post the great news, I’ll try to update tomorrow with our 6 week check in. Until then take care ~yin!

Fried SPAM and Tomato sauce…

Published November 6, 2011 by The Yang

Hi, this is The Yang checking in.  I must say, ever since finding out Yin was pregnant, our lives have been on this massive rollercoaster ride.  I think I’ve felt every emotion possible during these past few weeks.  Right now, things are pretty calm on my end.  I realized there’s really no need to worry about our pregnancy scare anymore.  We really haven’t gotten any bad information.  Our betas are steadily doubling, Yin is starting to have difficulty buttoning her pants, and she’s craving fried SPAM with tomato sauce.  If that ain’t some pregnant stuff, I don’t know what is!  I’ve done a lot of research on bleeding/spotting in the 1st trimester and found out that its actually pretty common.  I think a few of our readers said they experienced this too and everything turned out fine!  I guess the best thing I can do is just be as supportive as I know how to be for Yin and stay positive about ABAK.  Yin is coming down with a cough, which sucks because we’re scared for her to take any medicine.  We called the obgyn’s office and they gave her a list of meds that is safe for her to take, but we don’t really trust them too much.  I fixed her some chicken noodle soup and OJ on Friday.  She’s been taking some Delsym (half of the recommended dose) but that doesn’t seem to be helping.  Hopefully it’ll go away on its own soon.  I got my flu shot on Friday for the first time in my life.  I figured that’s the right thing to do so I won’t get her sick while she’s carrying our precious cargo!  Right now, we’re at 5w4d…I read that the baby’s heart is starting to form and its eyes and ears as well.  I talk to ABAK every single day, I tell them good night every night before I go to sleep.  We go in for another round of beta testing tomorrow, so we expect the numbers will be up where they need to be, since they’ve been going up nicely so far.  Our first u/s is on Wednesday.  We’ll be at 6w0d.  I read that at this time, we should be able to pick up a heartbeat on the monitor, but it may be too early to hear it on the Doppler.  I’m just hoping that our baby’s heart is beating on Wednesday.  Then Yin can stop worrying as much and just enjoy this wonderful miracle that’s growing inside her belly.  Until then, no worries, all positive thoughts!  I love our baby more than anything.  Even though Yin is carrying, I feel that its every bit a part of me too.  Fingers crossed for Monday & Wednesday xx

-The Yang

4 weeks!

Published October 26, 2011 by Yin!

We are 4 weeks today! I got my second beta results yesterday, it was 85 which more than doubled from the previous score of 11. The nurse said everything looks good, we’re going in for another draw on Saturday. They want it to be up to 3000 so when we have our first appointment we can see ABAK on the ultrasound.  Just so you aren’t lost we’ve decided to call the baby ABAK which are the initials for the first and middle names that we have picked out. If its a girl she will be A.B. and a boy will be A.K. We’re team green so we won’t know the gender until birth. Our first appointment is November 9th, we both are excited and can’t wait to see our little bear on the ultrasound! We’re still hoping and praying that everything progresses as it should and we have a healthly pregnancy.

How far along: 4 weeks
Symptoms: My breast are getting bigger and are sore, gas, lower backaches, slight cramps
Total Weight Gain: None so far
Stretchmarks: Nope, only the ones I already had
Sleep: Weird dreams and waking more often during the night
Best Moment This Week: Getting my second betas yesterday
Movement: Too early for any movement other than all the gas lol
Gender: Too early, but we’re team green so it will be unveiled on the due date
Labor Signs: Too early for that!
Belly Button: Still in.
What I Miss: Nothing so far, but I’ll probably miss having the occasional cocktail or glass of wine.
What I am Looking Forward to: Getting my baby bump, hearing ABAK’s heartbeat

Welcome to the blog of momma and mommy!

Published October 22, 2011 by Yin!

Before we share the news: If we are facebook friends PLEASE DO NOT MENTION THIS ON FACEBOOK! We haven’t shared with some real life friends and family yet and would like to tell them for ourselves, not have it announced on our walls. Thanks!

On 10/20/2011 we got our BFP. I was once again doubtful that this cycle worked. Our morning started as usual I dropped Yang off at the train station, then on my way home I felt this sudden wave of emotion and began crying. I was sobbing to myself about how of everything in my life this is what I want the most but the one thing I have no control over when it happens. When I got back home I wiped my tears and decided to test (knowing it was early and probably would be negative). I used a first response early test, left it on the counter to process and went to iron my clothes. When I returned to the bathroom I was in totally disbelief there were 2 lines! There had never been 2 lines before! Here I was expecting to find yet another negative test. I decided to confirm with a digital, though I know most women say they aren’t as sensitive and may not show a positive right away. I stared at the test as the hourglass blinked to my surprise the word PREGNANT appeared. I whispered to myself I’m pregnant, I’m pregnant even after repeating it I still couldn’t believe it. I wasn’t supposed to test until I missed my period and here I was at 9dpo with a positive test. I was trying to decide how I should tell Yang I wasn’t sure if I should do something special with balloons and a card, a dinner or what…

While I was debating on that she called to let me know she made it to work. Our phone call went something like this.

Phone rings

Yin answers: Yang come home

Yang: What, why

Yin: Are you going to be mad

Yang: No what is it

Yin: I’m pregnant

Yang: What

Yin: I’m pregnant

Yang: How do you know?

Yin: I took a test, I thought you would be mad because I tested early

Yang: For real send me a pic of the test, I’m so happy

Yin: we’re going to be moms!

Yang and I met up on break (our offices are across the street from each other) and I gave her the digital test, we kept smiling and hugging, and told each other congratulations. We both were and still are so very happy. We went in that evening for betas, we got the results the next day and it was an 11. The nurse said the score is in line with how far along I am which at the time was 3weeks 1 day. We go in on Monday for our second blood draw hoping to see lots of doubling has taken place. We both are nervous I’ve read so many stories on chemical pregnancies and early losses so we are extremely cautious. To ease our on minds I’ve been peeing on sticks like crazy. It’s funny this is with tons of encouragement from Yang who is usually the anti-tester.  We taken like 8 test a combo of different brand lines test and digitals and all have turned positive. The lines have been getting darker (though I know this may or may not indicate hcg increasing) but for now we are taking this as a good sign. We love this baby more than words can express and it has been hoped for and prayed for, so we are still praying that this little bear sticks! Fingers and everything else crossed until next time ~Yin!

What we’ve been up to…

Published October 15, 2011 by Yin!

Well we’ve been writing a few posts here and there but not posting them. We planned to post the entries later but have decided that we should just do it now. This blog is supposed to be a place where we can share what we are doing, so we will no longer keep this part to ourselves. So here it goes Yang and I are trying to have a baby!!! We’re currently on our third try and are in the two week wait! This is part of the reason things have been so quiet around here. We both have wanted to blog but seem to have baby on the brain so it’s a bit to difficult to blog when all we want to talk about is baby, baby, baby but are trying to keep it a secret. So secret no more, Yang and I have officially joined the land of lesbian ttcers!

Time to catch up

Published July 7, 2011 by Yin!

Wow it’s been months since we last updated this blog. Let’s see if I can catch everyone up on what’s been going on in Ying and Yang’s little corner of the world. In May Yang travelled to Florida for exams so I was alone for our 3 year wedding anniversary :( , but it was for a good cause. We both are counting down until the college years can be behind us. We also celebrated Memorial Day I made a bbq dinner and afterwards we snuggled on a blanket and watched fireworks at a local park.

In June we attempted to attend our first Pride in Boston but the weather was less than wonderful. It was rainy and cold but we still managed to catch the end of the parade and snap a few pics

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Luckily New York is only a few hours away, we both have said we wanted to go to NY pride but hadn’t made any plans of attending this year. This all changed on June 24 when marriage equality was passed in NY. We found out the annual pride parade was that weekend and felt attending would be the perfect way to celebrate. We purchased our bus tickets and made an impromptu trip to NYC on Saturday and returned late Sunday night needless to say the weekend was wonderful but returning to work Monday morning not so much.

We closed out the month of June with good news after only 5 months of employment Yang got a  promotion and along with it came a 10% raise! We both are thankful things are going so well for us. July has started off great we enjoyed a relaxing staycation for the 4th of July. We stayed 3 nights in a hotel in downtown Boston. Since moving it’s either been too cold or we’ve been too busy to explore the city. During our trip we met up with another couple for a double date at a Thai restaurant and then had drinks at a jazz bar. Sunday was our relaxing day we got massages, then pedicures then capped off the evening with a delicious dinner at Cheesecake factory. Monday we did a little sightseeing around the area and ended the day listening to the Boston Pops and watching fireworks light up the sky. Tuesday we checked out of the hotel and headed to work *sigh* it was hard to end such a nice weekend I wish we had more like that. Today is Thursday and I still haven’t got back in the swing of things at work, thank goodness tomorrow is Friday! Well I guess I should get to work so I’ll add pics tonight. Hope everyone had a great 4th of July ~Yin

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